A fall muse on laying roots
A few mornings ago, as I opened the window in my room like I do each morning, it hit me that things were different. Upon feeling the chill, I noticed the leaves on the big tree next door were thoroughly, beautifully yellow. It was quiet and still out. The sky, too, had lost a bit of its blue brilliance.
It’s fall here in Buenos Aires. People are donning their fancy warm weather shoes and coats, complaining about the cold or a sore throat, and the energy is much more harried than the pace I’d become accustomed to as a symptom of Argentina’s oppressive heat.
It’s the first seasonal change I’ve experienced since I moved to Buenos Aires. When I arrived in November, spring was a-bloomin’ into summer, but I wasn’t leaving behind winter like everyone else here was. In a feat of hemispheric genius, I was leaving behind summer in the States to arrive to another summer.
And while the cold isn’t my favorite, I’m quite enjoying transitioning with the rest of the city. I feel part of it. Plus, the opportunity to get cozy and homey and make soup is feeling right. Six months in a new country, a different language, a new barrio, a totally unfamiliar reality, and I’m ready to take a breather and dwell in the life I’ve built for myself here.
I’ve been noticing, lately, what that life looks like. Now, I have friends at the vegetable stand, the bakery and the laundromat, who greet me with a “It’s been a while, where have you been?” if I haven’t come round in a few weeks. I have the semblance of a routine, with various weekly commitments including a fantastic Spanish class, a visit to the suburbs to the teens I tutor, a few hours with a nice group of familiar faces who come to my Saturday yoga class. I seem to have transitioned from talking superficially to everyone I meet (“Where are you from?” “What are you doing here?” “Why Buenos Aires?”) into having deep conversations on a regular basis. Meat has officially lost its novelty (I’m basically a vegetarian again). I’m slowly but surely shedding my inhibitions when speaking Spanish, and I’m surprising myself with the random vocabulary words I pull out in conversation. I experienced a major world news event from its epicenter (one word: Repsol). I even understand how to use the Guia T, the profoundly confusing guide to Buenos Aires’ public transportation system.
Six months has also definitely been enough time to feel a wide range of strong emotions. Unfortunately, it was enough to miss an incredibly important family gathering at home. During that time, I felt — really felt — what it means to be so far away from those I love most when I would have given anything to be with them. To be able to mourn my grandfather’s death in the company of other loved ones, and not alone in a foreign place. To be able to hug and kiss and smell and see my family.
Most of all in this new life, I’m learning how to take care of myself right. On one of those days when I was feeling particularly far and lonely, I walked to the bakery down the street, where I often stop in for a cookie or an empanada, to treat myself to Chipá (yum!). It’s one of my favorite places in the neighborhood. On my walk home, sheepish from shedding a tear or two in front of the shop owner, I realized that, in a way and without even trying, I’d managed to seek out comfort food, a friend, and a decently familiar shoulder to cry on.

jessica,
i love reading your journey, and i love your writing style. your words paint such a clear landscape of where you stand physically as you navigate your new world,,but also tell your emotional landscape, which i so enjoy. you throw yourself into everything you write.
sending you hugs for the loss of your grandfather. keep on writing your life~
Judye
28 Apr 12 at 11:21 am
Beautifully written! So wonderful to have you in class last night and get to chat afterwards. You are a sweet and welcome addition to my new life here in this foreign land!
Carolyn
28 Apr 12 at 1:10 pm
Thank you both so much. xoxo
Jessica
28 Apr 12 at 6:15 pm
Brava!
gino fusco
28 Apr 12 at 8:08 pm
Gino: It’s so great to see your name again. Demasiado tiempo! Thank you!
Jessica
28 Apr 12 at 8:25 pm
As the melancholy of winter arrives to BA, so does the mood to your writing. The loss of your grandfather, the physical distance from loved ones and learning to find comfort in kind strangers resonates deeply with the reader . . . Resonates deeply with me. Keep writing. Keep telling your story.
ELizabeth
28 Apr 12 at 8:29 pm
I love this entry. Six months makes such a huge difference and now that you’ve gotten there, I feel like we’ve lost you for many years to come…
I love you and I miss you so much!! But so happy BA starting to feel more like home
Xoxo
Julie
Julie
18 May 12 at 8:23 am